【先知】紀伯倫 -- <關於‧孩子>

教養界最近吵得很兇唷~

到底應該怎麼教養小孩，

總是會有不同的立場與觀點。

而我對教養的迷失，

也因越看越多而更加茫然與焦慮。

好在，好友分享了一篇文章，減低了我些許焦慮，

這篇文章恰好位於書櫃的某一本書本裡面，

靜靜躺了多年。

多奇妙~

生命的每個轉彎處，以前視而不見、體會不到的，

轉個念就能感受的到它的美。

這本書是【先知】紀伯倫

引用其中一篇分享給有孩子的朋友們

<關於‧孩子>

一個懷中抱著孩子的婦人說：請和我們談談「孩子」吧!

他回答 -

你們的孩子，並不真的就是你們所有，

乃是生命為其本身所渴望而降臨。

他們是藉由你們而來，卻不是從你們而來，

他們雖和你們同在，卻不屬於你們。

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你們可以給他愛，卻無法給他們思想。

因為他們有自己的思想。

你們可以蔭庇他們的身體，卻不能蔭庇他們的靈魂，

因為他們的靈魂住在明日之屋，你們在夢中也不能探訪。

你們可以努力模仿他們，卻不能使他們與你們相像。

因為生命不倒流，也不與昨日一同停留。

你們是弓，你們的孩子是從弦上發出的生命之箭。

那射者在無窮之中看定目標， 也用神力將你們引滿，使他的箭矢迅速而遙遠的射出。 讓你們在射者手中的彎曲成為喜樂吧! 因為他愛那飛出的箭，也愛那靜止的弓。 ~出版社 智慧大學~ 以下附上原文：

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, Speak to us of Children. And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the Archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrows that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable -------------------------------------------------